L.O.V.E. It Forward in (Your) Neighborhood Discussion

 

 

  

#2  Low Self Esteem? Build Confidence With Positive Affirmations

1. What kind of belief system characterizes someone with low self-esteem?
2. What are affirmations?
3. What happens when you continue to repeat affirmations?
4. What are five affirmations for higher self-esteem?
5. True or false: your sub-conscious does not evaluate or judge your affirmations?
6. The author likens thoughts and affirmations to what?
7. How do you recommend stopping negative thought processes?

#3 Build Confidence in Parenting Skills

1. According to this article, raising responsible children is more like the ocean tide.  What is the best way to deal with the falling back and regrouping our strength and power?
2. What happens if we constantly compare our children, ourselves or our situation with others?
3. According to the author, what is the basic principle for personal growth and self improvement in family relationships?
4. What is the only real tool to encourage positive actions in our family which we have direct access?
5. What should parents do to influence unacceptable behavior of their children?
6. Why should parents be consistent in expectation of their children's behavior?
7. According to the article, should our love for our family and for ourselves be dependent on behavior?  

#5  TV-Free Activities to Teach Social Skills 

1. What is one way to model social behavior to children?
2. Why do you think that lecture is not an effective way to model social behavior?
3. True or false:  interacting with children in a relaxed play situation will not improve the social skills that a child needs to be invited to play with other children.
4. True or false: families agree that their children spend too much time in front of electronic devices.
5. What are the two nicknames used for electronic devices?
6. What are some activities that a family can do to teach social skills?
7. Why do you think it is important to establish a family time without electronic devices?

                  #6   Random Acts of Kindness Build Communities of Care 

1. What brings meaning into our lives?
2. What do random acts of kindness build?
3. What will matter at the end of one’s life?
4. In what positive way will our grandchildren follow our example?
5. Why is it important that each member of society looks for ways to make a better family, neighborhood, community, city, area, region, state, nation and world?
6. What is an example of one little thing that we can do to improve our surroundings and help our neighbors?
7. True or false: A few years ago there was a big focus on random acts of kindness and people would pay for the next car in line at toll bridges and drop coins in expired parking meters.
8. Do you agree with the author that the random acts of kindness movement has become yesterday’s news?  Why or why not?

                   # 7   Shy in Social Situations 

1. What is shyness?
2. What are some other labels for shyness?
3. True or false: people who are shy in social situations usually do not see it as a problem until someone points it out or draws attention to the behavior.
4. How may observers judge a person who is shy?
5. True or false: everyone has periods of being quiet and also of being confident and outgoing.
6. True or false:  being shy is a behavior that can not be changed.
7. If you force yourself to do one thing, it can make others more receptive to you and your ideas. What is it?

                     # 8  Family Fun Out of Doors

1. True or false, many parents worry about their child’s ability to socialize or play with others.
2. What is one way to impact a child’s ability to socialize or play with others?
3. Describe the activity know as “treasure maps and hidden bounty.”
4. How could you adapt this activity for your own family?
5. Describe the activity “sleep under the stars.”
6. How could you modify this activity to suit the needs of your own family?
7. What is another out of door activity that would work well for familys?

# 9 Playtime With Your Children 


1. What does the author say makes for the best fun?
2. How will investing in playtime with your children pay off?
3. Describe the activity “water, water everywhere.”
4. How could you modify this activity for your family?
5. Describe the activity “go fly a kite.”
6. How might you modify this activity for your family?
7. Describe the activity “nature journal.”
8. How could you adapt this activity to meet the needs of your family?

         #10 Strengthen Muscles and Memories 

1. Why do you think it is important to build relationships,  memories and connections with your loved ones?
2. How does the author say that you will feel if you take the time to make memories now?
3. What is the Silly Olympics?
4. What are some suggestions for this activity?
5. What is one additional suggestion that you could make for this activity?
6. What is the ultimate goal, no matter what you choose to do with your kids?
7. What does having fun together do to strengthen family relationships?

              #11 Weak, Whiny Women 

1. 1.      Do you agree with the author that family stories are all time favorites? Why or why not?

   2.      Give a quick account of your favorite family story.

   3.      What does the author say is comfortable for children?

   4.      Why do you think it may be important for children to know in advance that a crises will be solved and that a story will have a happy ending?

   5.      What do you have the opportunity to do when telling family stories?

   6.      What will children learn by association as a result of family stories?

   7.      The best stories have lots of what?

   8.      What will happen as a result of sharing family stories with your children?

   # 13   Storytelling - Cheap and Fun Entertainment

   1. Name some places and situations that are perfect for storytelling.

   2. Evaluate the statement: “Our culture is so addicted to electronic entertainment that story telling and sharing conversations are getting to be a rare commodity.”

   3. What are some ways that you can help set the mood for storytelling?

   4. Why are rituals important for children?

   5. How can storytelling while traveling make the drive go more smoothly, especially at night?

   6. Why do you think experts believe that children need to hear stories that come to a happy conclusion?

   7. Brainstorm five more ways to have fun for no money.

#14 Adult Vs Childhood Trauma

1. How does the author define “adult trauma”?
2. A traumatic episode can have a long lasting effect on both an adult and child.  According to the author, which group suffers the most and why?
3. What personal traits are more capable of handling with the negative trauma?
4. True or False.  Adults who have more traumas in their earlier lives tend to perceive negative events and experiences as more isolated and have a greater stress tolerance.
5. True of False.  Adults and children who have dealt successfully with the past traumatic events tend to link their current trauma to past events.
6. Scientific studies have shown that those with early childhood trauma which has never been resolved or processed continue to experience more trauma as adults.  Why?
7. How does the author suggest someone who was involved in either adult or childhood trauma should do with regard to his/her belief systems?  

   #15  Make Friends by Practicing Kindness 

   1. What is the most important quality to practice if you want to make friends?

   2. True/false practicing consistently will make it easier to have friendships, but after a while it will be automatic.

   3. What kind of force is kindness?

   4. What will happen as we practice kindness?

   5. True/false the mere act of truly listening to others as they speak, of being aware of those who need assistance or encouragement, and of looking beyond our own needs, is disheartening.

   6. What is one way that you make others comfortable?

   7. As your network of true friends and supporters grows, what else will grow?

   8. What should be your goal as you practice kindness?

   #16  Touchpoints – Connect with your teen 

   1. What is a touchpoint?

   2. What do teens particularly dislike?

   3. What four things do children need in the section “Touchpoints of Love?”

   4. True/false the best expressions of love and acceptance are non-verbal.

   5. Do you agree with the author that teens respond better to non-verbal expressions?  Why or why not?

   6. What are some non-verbal expressions that teens may respond to favorably?

   7. Evaluate the statement: “the opposite of love is not hate, it’s being ignored.”
    

#17 Teasing and Name Calling

1. True or false:  teasing and name calling are part of development and testing boundaries.
2. True or false:  verbal aggressiveness makes the bully feel stronger in that moment.
3. True or false: name calling can not be a form of self protection.
4. Teasing can be done two different ways.  What are they?
5. Why do you think teasing is most common in boys?
6. What is the good news about most kids and teasing?
7. Describe an incident of bullying that you remember.

 #18 Depression in Teens—Sleep Disturbances 

1. What are the usual signs of depression?
2. True/false sleep disturbances do not enlarge other problems.
3. Why is a medical evaluation important with regard to teen sleep disturbances?
4. What does the author recommend instead of sleep medications?
5. True/false brain development accelerates in late childhood.
6. What systems do depression impact most?
7. Teens who expressed feelings of alienation and disconnect from family had higher rates of what sorts of problems and illnesses?

#19 Parenting Tips to Turn on Fun

#20 Shyness and Social Anxiety – Why Do I Do What I Do?

1. According to this article, who are the ones exerting the most influence on us in learning to speak and communicate with other?
2. How do we learn what is acceptable and what will make others angry?
3. How do we learn to connect the sounds and actions of communication?
4. The author says that even if the parents and caregivers don’t encourage shyness, what would they enable the shy person to do?
5. Why do you think some shy people who regard the world as full of disapproving parents?
6. Instead of viewing the world full of disapproving parents, what should the shy people do?
7. How should shy people change their belief system to make a choice to be confident? 

         #21 Affirmations for Recovery – Self Knowledge

1. According to the author, why are negative thoughts come up so easily?
2. What are some of the consequences to have constant negative thoughts about ourselves?
3. How should we plant positive thoughts and actions with?
4. What is an affirmation in psychology?
5. True or False.  The more negative thoughts we plant into our mind, the many more negative thoughts and actions will follow.
6. Please provide five examples of affirmation given by the author in the article.
7. In the article, the author says “When using affirmations, think of them as planting positive flowers or seeds.”  Can you explain why?

               #24 Liberating Losses—When Death Brings Relief    

1. True/false to feel relief at the death of another is not often acknowledged or spoken about.
2. Who is the expert that the author refers to who wrote the book Liberating Losses?
3. Evaluate the following statement and provide and example: “As medical science has treatments and medications that keep people alive much longer than in the past, families may face years of care for someone who would not have chosen this existence.”
4. Why are we ashamed to admit that death brings relief, not only to the one who has passed into another plane of existence, but also to those exhausted souls left to pick up the pieces and move on?
5. What sorts of things can we do for someone who is suffering?
6. How might you react to someone who expresses relief following a death.
7. What other reasons might someone feel relief following a death?

#25 Feelings and Emotions Around Loss of Loved One

              #26 What to Say at Funerals—Do Not Stand by the Grave and Weep 

1. What is the most important funeral, memorial, grave?
2. How might someone gain clarity in making decisions following the death of a loved one?
3. What is the name of the poem the author suggests?
4. Why is it often easier to use another’s words rather than our own at this difficult time?
5. Name a poem, story, or song that you might refer to if you had to speak at a funeral or memorial service.
6. Is there something that you have found useful and comforting to say in these situations?  If not, come up with something that might bring a family comfort.
7. What is something you would definitely not say or do at a funeral?

1. Describe how you would react if your pet died.
2. Why do parents need to be effective listeners when a pet dies? 
3. Why do adults need to model that it’s okay to feel sad?
4. Why is it our tendency to protect children from the harsh realities of life?
5. If we do not acknowledge our own morning and sadness, what is a child less likely to do?
6. True/false a child looks to us for guidance in word as well as actions.
7. Since a child is very dependent on the adults around him in order for them to cope, what does the author recommend?

              #28 Unconditional Love Between Pets and Children 

1. When all other relationships were changing, what might a pet have offered teens, tweens, and young adults?
2. During childhood, a pet might have been a source of what?
3. What does it mean that many children look at the pet as an anchor of childhood?
4. Why do you think if the friends downplay the sorrow, the adolescent may bury the hurt feelings and questions in his heart, and not feel safe sharing them.
5. Teens may use what to deflect opportunities to share?
6. When are family conversations the most open and sharing?
7. True/false the way that a teen deals with the loss of a pet will influence the way that they deal with the loss of a loved one later in life

#30 How Do You Help Your Children Deal With the Loss of a Pet?

#31 Pet Loss & Depression – 5 Ways to Help Ease Your Pain

#32 Disbelief About Death of a Loved One

1. Is it possible for belief and disbelief to operate in our sub conscious minds at the same time?   Can you give an example?
2. According to the article, if you have had no warning and no time to prepare for unexpected announcements of a bad news, what is the best protection of a shattered heart?
3. What is another major reason that we tend to disbelieve the death of our loved one in addition to the weight of the loss?
4. Why is it natural to feel numb when the loss of a loved one is first encountered?
5. What are the benefits of talking with a group of people who have undergone similar losses of loved ones?
6. Do you think that keeping busy is one effective way to help someone ease the pain of the loss of a loved one?  Why?
7. What would you suggest the best way to deal with the loss of a loved one? 

#33 – Death of Family Members Brings Out Best and Worst

#34 – Loss of a Pet – Cremation or Burial

#35 – Loss and Grief in Children and Adolescents

         #36 Problem Solver—New Job Description 

1. If you want your child to have an occupation that is always in demand, then what should you do?
2. What are some characteristics of a problem solver?
3. Do you agree with the statement that there are five solutions to every situation?  Why or why not?
4. Why is learning to solve problems so important in the career world?
5. What does the author mean when she tells her children that their job has not yet been invented, that they will be the ones to create it.
6. How are you a problem solver in your current occupation?
7. Do you feel that today’s employers value this trait?  Why or why not?

         #37 People Like to Do Business With People They Know, Like and Trust 

#38 Rude Children – Teach Good Manners

1. True or False.  The problem with teaching tweens or teens manners is that parents frequently do it in a critical way.
2. Why do you think that a young person whose parents treat everyone with respect, kindness and understanding are more likely to use good manners?
3. According to the author, where is the best place to teach your child about rules of good manners?
4. How would you raise your child’s awareness of the feelings of others?
5. What does the author mean by “teachable moments”?
6. How should the good table manners be modeled?
7. What effect is on your children when you encourage politeness?

#39 – Difficult Teenagers

#40 Stepdad Or Stepped on Dad 

#41 – Terminal Illness and Impending Death

#42 Divorce is Hard on Kids

1. To effectively deal with divorce, the author suggests a mind shift about three elements.  What are those elements?
2. According to this article, what is the question that is often not asked by the children but yet an answer they really want to know during divorce?
3. As a parent, we need to be supportive of our children and communication is always the key.  What are the factors that will affect how much we should tell our children about what is happening around divorce?
4. Why shouldn’t you tell your children that you hate your spouse no matter how angry you get?
5. What should a divorced parent reassure their kids of?
6. What do you think the likely adverse consequence if the divorced parents expect the children to be involved in loyalty contests?
7. Do you agree with the author that divorced parent should always truthfully answer their children’s questions regarding their divorce?  Can you think of any circumstances where a white lie may be in the best interest of the children? 

         #43 Indigo Children—Do you have one? 

1. What is an Indigo child?
2. What are two characteristics of the unusual children the author was seeing in her parenting classes?
3. What does not work with Indigo children?
4. What are five common traits of Indigo Children?
5. The author does not include ways to deal with such children.  In at least five sentences describe strategies that might work with Indigo Children.
6. Find a website that offers strategies on Indigo children.  Cut and paste the URL and give at least three strategies.

#44 Suicide in the Family – Choosing to End a Life

1. What is the hardest part of grieving the survivors face?
2. According to the article, what is the difference between the words Guilt and Regret?
3. Why is it important to understand the difference between Guilt and Regret?
4. Despite the distinction between guilt and regret, how are they related to each other?
5. True or False.  If we regret with guilt, it will make grief last much longer and harder to process and let go.
6. Do you agree with the author that we are powerless over other people’s lives?
7. If you know your family member is sad, depressed or thinking of ending his/her life, what would you do?

#45 Discipline Vs Punish – Guide Or Force Acceptable Behavior?

1. What is the definition of discipline?  And where does the word discipline come from?
2. What does the author associated the word “Punish” with?
3. Do you agree that parents who use punishment as a means of control usually have very high standards and expectations?
4. According to this article, what adverse effect will have on children who live with parents who use punishment as a means of control?
5. What does the author suggest how loving and kind parents should discipline and teach their children with?
6. How would discipline foster confidence and self esteem in all members of the family?
7. Why shouldn’t we tie our parental love and guidance to accomplishments, behavior or task?
8. What should parents do if they want children to respect them?

1. Memorial Day is an opportunity for what?
2. True/False Death and dying are not subjects that come on a daily basis.
3. True/False It is not okay to mourn the loss of loved ones and to feel unsafe sharing those feelings with others.
4. You may want to reassure the child about what?
5. Why may adults feel embarrassed or ill at ease?
6. The more prepared the family is in expressing not only feelings of sadness, but the joy and happiness that comes from being together, the easier it is to what?
7. True/False. Most children are curious but won’t ask many questions.

            #77  Talk to Children About Death and Dying 

1. Does talking to your children about death make them less afraid of it?
2. What holiday in particular is a good day to bring up death and dying?
3. Should you let your children see you remembering a loved one who has passed and crying about it?
4. Think of some ways to make sure your child is comfortable asking you questions.
5. Why are adults sometimes embarrassed at questions a child may ask?
6. What percentage of children will suffer a loss at some point in their lives?
7. Why do adults often not bring up death to their children?
   

#78 Death and Dying – What I Want VS What I Need

1. What are some of the important things missing from a typical care plan pointed out by the author?
2. Why is it important to not only have a care plan but also a plan of care?
3. According to this article, fulfilling a dying person’s wish can give him/her some sense of control over what?
4. The author suggests that we should not only make our dying wish comfortable, but more importantly a _______________ one.
5. When does a dying person feel empowered?
6. Do you agree with the author that dying people want to know that their life has had meaning and that they are a valued part of society and want to be remembered?
7. According to this article, what will we maintain by interacting with each other and sharing our thoughts, dreams, and desires?
8. What does the author suggest that a dying person should state to an advocate (either caregiver or family member)?

         #79 Overcome Self Doubt-Lack of Confidence, Courage and Can't Do it Attitude 

 #80 Unexpected and Traumatic Death – What Do You Do?

1. True or False. There are more unexpected deaths than expected ones.
2. Why do you think that medical personnel who are trained to solve problems and find answers may seem very uncaring when announcing unexpected death?
3. Why does the author suggest the first thing we should do when dealing with sudden death of a loved one?  Why?
4. What are the drawbacks of making major decisions without an advocate in the events of unexpected death of a loved one?
5. The article states that it is natural and understandable to be in shock.  What should we give ourselves to adjust, absorb and act accordingly?
6. Do you agree with the author that no matter how the death occurs, we often think somehow we could have done something more, better, more often etc?
7. Unresolved grief and anger are at the root of much illness. What does the author suggest we should do otherwise?
   

#81 Your Top 4 Secret Fears and Anxieties About Dating

1. True or False.  Dating is especially hard if you are just going back to the dating scene after a divorce or breakup in a relationship. Why and why not?
2. What will actually happen if we allow the mind chatter and distorted thoughts about what might happen running over and over in our brain?
3. Do you agree with the author that no matter how many positive strokes we have had, we tend to remember, focus and think about negatives?  Why do you think so?
4. According to the article, how does the fear of failure rob us of meaningful relationships?
5. How does the fear of rejection prevent us from building a meaningful relationship?
6. What effect will be put on our relationship if we fear too much about the future?
7. Why do you think the fear of our intimacy will hurt any meaningfully relationship?
8. What does the author suggest if you are feeling fear in a dating situation?

            #82 10 Ways for a Dad to Say I Love You When He is Away from them 

1. Do you agree with the following statement: “If you, as a father, have relinquished the reins of guidance because of absence, you need to step back into the picture.” Why or why not?
2. Evaluate the statement: “Many men are uncomfortable mentoring, guiding, teaching and yes, loving their own children.”
3. List your three favorite ways that a father can connect with his children while he is away.
4. Provide three additional examples of your own.
5. What does the author suggest that fathers begin to do today?
6. What booklet does the author recommend that a father read if he isn’t sure what words to say to his children?
7. Can you think of a book, movie, or song that you also might recommend to a father looking to connect with his child?

            #84  Comfort Care Means Relief From Pain, Not a Cure For Those Who Are Terminally Ill

1. Is comfort care used to cure illness?
2. If a person is dying when their time is short what should be considered for therapy?
3. T or F Palliative care and comfort care are opposites
4. Does comfort care mean that the patient should stop all medical treatment?
5. Are there actual professional comfort care units?
6. What is the most important part when making a comfort care plan?
7. Would you prefer comfort care if you were in a situation where a cure was no longer possible?

#84 Comfort Care Means Relief from Pain, Not a Cure for those Who are Terminally Ill

1. Our scientific and medical cultures are trained for what?
2. What needs to be questioned as they dying process progresses?
3. What is palliative care?
4. True/False. The goal of comfort care is to cure or make a patient better.
5. Many palliative care units or caring families also address what?
6. When there is a supportive atmosphere with consideration and respect, there is a sense of what?
7. What is the most generous final gifts a loving family and support tam can give their loved one?

#85 When the Search For Cure Ceases – Palliative Care

1. What do families often struggle with?
2. What is the goal of palliative care?
3. What is the example given in the article about palliative care?
4. True/False Today in the United States, 60% of hospitals with over 100 beds offer a palliative care program.
5. There is often confusion between the terms ___________ and ______________.
6. What is the most important distinction between hospice and palliative care?
7. What happens when death becomes more imminent?

#98 What is Auntie? Is it different than Aunt?

1. True/ False The title auntie has to do with blood lines rather than spiritual connections.
2. What does the title auntie imply?
3. The underlying message of an auntie is ________ and _________.
4. Auntie Artichoke uses the Artichoke as a symbol of what?
5. What is the only way to open an artichoke and a family member?
6. What is the true treasure of the artichoke?
7. What is the authors second wish to you?

               #99 Social Anxiety – Afraid to Meet New People and Make Friends

1. Feeling stressed or anxiety is a good warning system that tells us to be alert for danger.  But according to the author, where does the real danger come from?
2. Why do you think some people are denying themselves from meeting new people?  What are their fears?
3. What do most shy and lonely people assume that hurts their chances of meeting new people?
4. What are the consequences when shy people try to avoid uncomfortable social situations at all cost?
5. The author emphasizes that shyness is not a feeling but what that can be changed?
6. True or False.  Confidence is a skill and it needs to be learnt and practiced.
7. What are some of the tips that are provided by the author to help us learn any skill?

#100 Staying Calm When Stressed Out – What is Underlying Emotion?

1. Even though punishment is a temporary fix for a long term problem, why do adults continue to punish kids?
2. Why do you think it is dangerous to use emotions to force others into submission?
3. Where and how do children learn to kick, throw, yell, swear and threaten those smaller than them?
4. What is a child’s underlying need?
5. If not punishment, what should we teach our child with?
6. What do the children automatically assume when we are angry at them even though it has nothing to do with their behaviors?
7. What are some of the tips provided by the author to help us handle the stress?

#101 Character Traits to Teach and Have - What Makes a Person Develop Values and Standards?

1. What is the definition of character?
2. What are 10 positive character traits?
3. True or False.  If you are labeled a certain way, you will remain that way.
4. How do you encourage those in our circle of influence and our own belief system?
5. How do you encourage self esteem and confidence?
6. How do you acquire your character, values, and standards?
7. What is the outcome of encouraging strong and noble characters? 
    

#102 Respect Versus Ridicule - Giving Feedback That Builds Up Rather Than Tears Down People

1. What is the intention of feedback?
2. How do you achieve positive behavior with your family, co workers, and friends?
3. True or False.  We only remember 30 percent of what is said.
4. What is the communication of information?
5. What is a more effective way to motivate people?
6. What results in others perceiving that you are standing judgment on them?
7. How many ways are there to solve a problem or situation?
8. What happens when someone uses a power standpoint for a situation that calls for feedback?

#103 What Makes Strong and Nurturing Families?

1. Who has the longest dependency on others?
2. What is a family made up of?
3. In the article, what is the metaphor for a closed and dysfunctional group?
4. What do parents and families that touch by pushing or pulling fail to recognize?
5. True or False.  You or your family cannot change once negative patterns have been established over a long period of time.
6. What is the purpose of having boundaries and rules in society?
7. If someone is in family that is not supportive, who can look up to?
   

#104 Incentives Can Encourage Feelings of Accomplishment

1. True or False.  An incentive and a bribe have essentially the same meaning.
2. How can a worker achieve a feeling of accomplishment and self worth?
3. When a child completes a job successfully, besides an incentive, what else should you give them?
4. How can you tell the difference between a bribe and incentive?
5. True or False.  The feeling of completing a task can be duplicated.
6. What does finishing a project correlate with?
7. What will cause a child to feel more inclined to finish other tasks?
8. True or False.  Bribes are like blackmail.

#105 Presents Or Presence? Which Gift is the Most Priceless?

1. What nursery rhyme is mentioned in the article?
2. What gift do you have within you?
3. Besides a store bought gift, what other gift can you give someone?
4. What are a few examples of gifts of service or time mentioned in the article?
5. True or False.  Poverty can be cured with a dose of money.
6. What are the three ways we have been broken at some point in our lives?
7. What type of attitude should you adopt this year?

#106 Share Family Stories Around the Holiday Table

1. How do you lower volatile emotions that may occur during the holidays?
2. In your opinion, do you acquire who you are as person by nature or nurture? Why?
3. According to the article, how do we learn how we came to be how we are?
4. What has happened over the last generation?
5. What is the simile used in the article for a relative passing away?
6. What has the author seen many times that has proven to be true?
7. What set the tone for the relationship the author’s daughter has with her family?
8. In your opinion, do you believe that article is correct in stating that this generation has lost touch with families because of the technological advances? Why?

#107 To-Do List For Parents, Written by Kids Just Like Yours and Mine

1. Do you agree or disagree with the article stating “the most important work you will ever do is within the walls of our home”?  Why or Why not?
2. For a busy parent, what are the 5 things a parent should include in their to-do list?
3. True or False.  The learning process can be accomplished fairly quickly.
4. Have you ever had to deal with someone that made a wrong choice? If so, how did you react towards the person?
5. What are some ways in which a person can learn?
6. When someone you know calls you names, do you tend to believe them? Why or why not?
7. In the article, it is mentioned that parents all over the world wish they knew what the most important things to do each day are.  Do you believe you know what the most important things to do each day are?

#108 Encouraging Words to Promote Positive Action in Children

1. What happens during the process of encouragement?
2. Name at least 8 encouraging words and phrases mentioned in the article?
3. What are some ways you used words to encourage someone that did not feel they could accomplish a difficult task?
4. Do you believe you can give the gift of encouragement? Why or why not?
5. Besides verbal encouragement, what are a few ways that you can provide encouragement to others?
6. What are some ways that you tried to provide encouragement but it failed?
7. When someone is feeling negatively about a situation, you can turn it into a positive situation.  What are some ways you could turn a situation positive?

#109 Raising Kids on a Budget - Involve the Whole Family to Cut Expenses

1. According to the article, what are the two ways to get more money?
2. In your opinion, do you think the current economic situation has effected how much a family can save? Why?
3. What does the acronym BUDGETS stand for?
4. Do you believe a relaxed and present parent is the best thing in a child’s life? Why?
5. In your opinion, do you believe people take on too many jobs these days? What do you think the outcome of too many jobs is?
6. Do you believe that every member in a family will pitch in if there is a financial crisis in the family? Why or why not?
7. What do you think are ways someone can get out of debt?

#110 What Do Children Need From Parents? Help Them Understand and Express Their Needs

1. According to the article, what are the five things a child wishes they could tell you?
2. What are the three basic necessities a parent should provide for their children?
3. What do you believe a parent or guardian should provide their children besides the three basic necessities? Name at least 3 things a parent should provide their children.
4. In your opinion, what do you believe are some ways to discipline a child by positive reinforcement versus negative reinforcement?
5. In your opinion, do you believe parents today spend enough time with their children given the current economic situation?
6. In your opinion, do you believe that it is possible to listen to a child without judging them? Why or why not?
7. What do you believe are some non verbal ways to tell a child you love them.  Mention three ways.

#111 Are We Spoiling Our Kids With Too Much Stuff?

1. Do you agree with Fred G. Gossman that “children of plenty are not happy”? Why or why not?
2. According to the article, what do children look more for instead of presents under the tree?
3. In your opinion, do you believe children today have lost the meaning of the holidays, such as Christmas or Hanukkah?  Why or why not?
4. True or False. In a survey of students listed in Who’s Who in American High Schools, 29 percent of children have considered suicide.
5. What are the four things children need from their parents or guardians? Can you name 2 more things children may require?
6. What are the three things that must end in rearing children today?
7. Have you ever felt you received too many material possessions at one time as child? Did the excessive material possessions make you feel happy?

#112 Resilient People Bounce Back

1. Can you think of someone that has been able to bounce back from adversity? How did this person accomplish this?
2. What makes a situation positive or negative?
3. What do most children do when they try to please parents or important adults?
4. How do those that have faced adversity move forward in life?
5. What does resilient mean? Do you agree with this definition? Why or Why not? Provide specific examples.
6. Do you agree with the author that life is unfair? Why or why not?
7. What type of people can “use a stick to build a bridge”?
   

#113 Help Your Child Succeed in School - 5 Ideas to Build Parent-School Partnerships

1. What are the 5 ways you can involve yourself in your child’s learning environment?
2. Which of the 5 methods do you think would work best? Why or why not?
3. In your opinion, what do you think is the result of overworked and underpaid teachers?
4. In your opinion, do you think higher paid teachers provide a better education for      children then teachers that receive a smaller salary?
5. Besides what the article provides for ways a parent can be involved in a child’s education, list 3 more effective ways.
6. Do you agree that asking specific questions about what a child does during the school day will reinforce the lessons learned?
7. Do you agree that teachers who use multiple methods of teaching insure that children understand the lessons?
   

#114 Why Our Kids Don't Listen - 5 Reasons Why They Tune Us Out

1. According to the article, what are the 5 reasons why children can sometimes be hard of hearing?
2. What is the difference between closed and open communication?
3. In your opinion, do you believe a parent telling their children stories from their past benefits the child? Why or why not?
4. What is good communication in a family build upon? Do you believe this establishes good communication in a family?
5. Give 3 examples of ways parents may accidently criticize their children when talking to them.
6. Do you agree that body language and facial expressions affects the way a child listens to a parent? Why or why not?
7. Have you ever had tuned out a parent when they were talking to you when you were a child? Provide a specific example.
   

#115 Remodeling - Not Always Good For Relationships

1. Have you ever had to approach a problem where your approach differed from the other person? Provide a specific example.
2. True or False. Our marriage and relationships are a work in progress; it will never be finished.
3. What is the metaphor the author uses for the difference between her and her husband?
4. In your opinion, have you ever had to continually work on a relationship?
5. What is the result of a secure foundation of love and respect?
6. What are the three things mentioned that are just incidentals instead of stumbling blocks?
7. Have you ever had an experience where you spent so much time working on a project that you continually worked to make it perfect? Provide a specific example.

#116 Long Term Grief - Not Get Over But Get Different

1. According to the article, what is one of the most difficult aspects of long term bereavement?
2. Do you know anyone that has lost a love one? What did you do to help them?
3. What do you think of Michael J. Fox’s quotation in the article? Do you think most people think like this after they have experienced a loss?
4. Do you believe a tragedy can in the future help someone out? Why or why not?
5. Do you think someone can get over a tragedy without talking about it with someone? Why or why not?
6. In your opinion, what is the best way to help someone get over the loss of a loved one?
7. Do you agree with the author that the shock of losing someone forces us to change the direction of our lives? Why or why not?

#117 Four Year Olds - Ages and Stages

1. What are the 10 task expectations of a four year old mentioned in the article?
2. Do you believe this article accurately describes a typical four-year-old? Why or Why not? Provide some examples from your childhood to support your answer.
3. What does Louise Bates Ames of the Gesell Institute of Human Development call the four-year-old?
4. True or False. The two words most frequently used by a four-year-old is why and no.
5. A four-year-old is at the age where they most want what?
6. What are the four developmental processes that a child goes through?
7. True or False. Four-year-old boys develop good language skills and have a wider vocabulary then a girl. 
8. Would you be worried if you had a child that wasn’t at the standards of four-year-olds described in this article? Why or why not?

#118 Five Year Olds - Ages and Stages

1. What are the 11 task expectations of a five-year-old mentioned in the article?
2. True or False. If you want a five-year-old to do something they don’t want to, you should help them out.
3. Do you believe this article accurately describes a five-year-old? Why or why not? Provide some examples from raising children on your own, or from your childhood
4. In your opinion, do you believe a five-year-old is much different from a child a year younger/older? Why or why not?
5. Besides motivating a child by receiving new privileges, what else do you believe motivates a young child? Mention at least 3 motivational factors.
6. Do you agree with the author that you can reason with a five-year-old easier then a younger child? Why or why not?
7. Do you agree that a five-year-old can get along with peers easier then siblings? Why or why not?

#119 Three Year Old – Ages and Stages

1. What are the 7 task expectations of a three year old?
2. Do you believe this article accurately describes a three-year-old? Why or why not? Provide specific examples from raising a child on your own, or from you childhood.
3. True or False.  You should be concerned if your child can’t do everything on this list by the age of three.
4. According to the article, what is the best reward for a three-year-old?
5. Do you believe that all three year olds pay attention to their parents? Why or why not?
6. What are the four stages of development that a child goes through?  List the stages and list at least one attribute of each stage.
7. True or False.  A three-year-old will not have more colds a child a year younger.

#120 Getting Kids to Help at Home - Pre-School and Kindergarten

1. What does evidence suggests about help affect the intellectual development of children?
2. What are the 10 ways the article suggests a parent can add interest to chores for their children?
3. True or False.  Small infants will feel a sense of safety and security when they become a few months old.
4. After reading the article, do you believe these suggestions for adding interest to chores will actually help? Why or why not.
5. True or False. By 19 months a child has a strong sense of himself and his place in the family.
6. What suggestion do you think would help the best? Which would be the worst? Be sure to explain why you chose these suggestions.
7. Do you think parents today have time to be creative when assigning chores? Why or why not?

#121 Techniques to Get Kids to Work at Home

1. According to the article, what are the 9 suggestions for making work at home fun with a child?
2. Which of the suggestions to you think would be most entertaining for a child? Least? Why?
3. While growing up, did your parents try to make work at home fun? If yes, what did they do? If no, what do you think they could have done better?
4. According to the article, what is the goal of family relationships?
5. According to the article, what should you use to get kids to help out at home?
6. The article suggested hiding smaller sums of money around areas that need to be cleaned.  In your opinion, do you believe over time this will be effective, or will it cause the child to only work for a reward?
7. In your opinion, do you think a child would respond more to doing work if a reward is involved, or with the threat of receiving a punishment? Why?

#122 What You Should Expect Pre-Teens to Do

1. According to the articles, what are at least 5 chores you can get your child to do?
2. While growing up as a preteen, do you feel that your parents gave you enough to do around the house? Why or why not?
3. Do you agree with the article that if you do everything for your child, you will not have time to spend with them? Why or why not?
4. Which chore on the list do you think a preteen would complain least about? Most about? Why?
5. According to the article, what is the role of parenting?
6. Do you agree with the article that the best training ground for a preteen is right at home? Why or why not?
7. Do you believe a preteen would enjoy being trained by their parents instead of people not related to them? Why or why not?
   

#123 I Message Instead of You Messages Makes Better Communication

1. According to the article, why is an “I” message more respectful then a “You” message?
2. Do you agree with the author that an "I" message is more respectful? Why or why not?
3. What are the three ways to do an “I” message?
4. What is the result of conflicts that are approached in a win-lose way? Do you agree that this is the outcome for this type of approach? Why or why not?
5. What is the basis for happy and productive relationships?
6. What should you do instead of a win-lose approach?
7. The article says that behavior can be changed.  What are 3 other ways behavior can be changed?
8. What are you expressing when you use an “I” message way of communication?

#124 Cultivating Positive Thoughts

1. Do you agree with the article that most belief systems are established before the age of 3? Why or why not?
2. In your opinion, do you believe you can change someone’s beliefs to mirror that of yours? Why or why not?
3. According to the article, what is the metaphor used for mind? Do you agree with this metaphor?
4. Do you believe that teachers alone help people grow to our full potential? Why or why not? Who else do you believe can help people grow to their full potential?
5. What will positive self suggestion and attitude overcome?
6. What have responsible role models learned?
7. Why does the author like working with teachers?

#125 Feeling Words – More Than Mad, Sad or Glad

1. True or False.  Verbal Communication is retained and understood 30% percent of the time.
2. What do families and individuals often struggle with?
3. What are at least 10 words that reflect feeling upset?
4. What are at least 10 words that reflect feeling happy?
5. Besides the words listed, can you name at least two more happy and upset synonyms?
6. What is one of the cornerstones of successful families?
7. Do you agree with the author that parents may refer back to mad, sad, and happy if they were from a family growing up that did not allow expressing their feelings?
8. Do you believe expressing your feelings with another person will help you to feel happier? Why or why not?

#126 Teach Your Children to Assume Responsibility for Their Actions

1. Do you agree with the article that not scolding a child after they have done something accidental, such as spilling milk, that they will learn to assume responsibility? Why or why not?
2. What is an important part of being a responsible adult?
3. What do children often do wrong?
4. True or False. You become responsible when you mature, and when you assume responsibility.
5. Why do you think that so many of us are afraid to admit fault for things they’ve done wrong? Do you think this stems from past punishment as a child? Explain.
6. What should you show your children?
7. What should you never do to your children?
8. Have you ever had an experience growing up where you were afraid to admit you did something wrong? Why do you think that was?

#127 Guidelines for a Fun, Efficient, and Effective Household Chore Time

1. Do you believe it is difficult to make time positive when a parent tells their children to help out around the house?
2. Do you agree with the article that it takes at least 3 times before a child can master a new chore? Why or why not?
3. What do you think would be a good way to reward a child for accomplishing a task?
4. What are the 7 guidelines listed in the article that increase effectiveness and cooperation when it comes to family chores?
5. Why is it difficult to get children to help out with chores around the house?
6. True or False. You should try to keep chores within a thirty minute time frame.
7. Do you agree with the article that you should teach boys and girls the same chores around the house to avoid gender roles?
   

#128 Just Walk Away –Teach Your Children to Brush off Teasing

1. What are the two choices for brushing off teasing?
2. In your opinion, which do you think would be most effective? Why or why not?
3. Why should a child not dwell on teasing?
4. Who should a child go to if the teasing is not able to be handled?
5. In your opinion, do you think that children can be unnecessarily mean to one another? Have you experienced teasing as a child or seen it done to other people?
6. Do you think it is easy for a child to just ignore the teasing? Why or why not?
7. Do you think that there are some children that are too embarrassed to admit their being teased?
8. What do you think will happen to a child if they continually get teased throughout their lives?

#129 Who Owns the Problem - Parent Or Child?

1. What is the result of a parent jumping in too soon to solve a problem or give an answer?
2. What are the 12 situations mentioned in the artice?
3. When does the parent own the problem?
4. What is the only way to spot who owns the problem?
5. When does the parent let behavior slide?
6. True or False. If the child is satisfying his or her own purposes and the child's behavior is not interfering with the parents, then there is a problem in the relationship.
7. When does the child own the problem?
8. When does the parent not own the problem?
   

#130 Stress Triggers For Kids

1. What are the 8 different types that can be affected by stressors?
2. What are the three standards to judge a situation?
3. What is the best way to solve stress related problems?
4. True or False.  Children and adolescents handle stress better when they are attached to at least one adult who will make them feel safe, secure and loved.
5. In your opinion, out of the 8 different types affected by stress, who do you think suffers the greatest amount of stress?
6. Do you agree with the article that parents are at times confused by normal growing pains and stress in a child’s life? Why or why not?
7. In your opinion, what do you believe is the best way to help someone who is stressed? 
    

#131 Manners, Etiquette & Politeness Quiz

1. What do people with good manners have the ability to do? Do you agree with this? Why or why not?
2. Do you agree with the article that all the answers are true? Why or why not?
3. What does behaving in social situations reflect upon you?
4. Have you ever been in a situation where you didn’t know the proper etiquette? What did you do?
5. Has anyone ever taught you proper etiquette before? If so, did it help? If not, do you think you would benefit from knowing proper etiquette?
6. Have you ever done any of the items on the list? Which ones? If not, which do you think are most important? List your top three.
7. Have you ever tried to help someone out that didn’t know the proper etiquette? What did you do?

#132 I Want to Be the Kind of Friend I Would Like to Have

1. What are all of the challenges the article wants you to try? List them all.
2. In your opinion, what do you think is the best to try? The worst?
3. Do you think someone would actually be able to complete all of these? Why or why not?
4. Do you think of yourself as a good friend? Do your friends think of you as a good friend? Why or why not?
5. What characteristics do you look for in a good friend? What characteristics do you avoid?
6. As a adolescent, do you believe you had a lot of friends growing up?
7. Did you ever wonder why some people could be so different and still be friends?

#133 Do More With Children, Not For Them - Ages 6 to 8 Years Old - Primary Grades

1. What are the three things mentioned in the article that you should do for your children?
2. Of the three, what do you think is the most important? Why?
3. What is the result of teaching children to do chores and other responsibilities?
4. What is a great way to build relationships and bond with your children?
5. Why are children easy to get to do chores?
6. In your opinion, do you think assigning chores to children is a good way to build relationships with them? Why or why not?
7. Would you consider working on chores with children bonding time? Why or why not?

#134 Writing Articles For Readers - Tell Them What They Want to Know

1. What are at least one question from each of the sections of who, what, when, where, and why?
2. In your opinion, do you believe you are a good writer? Why or why not?
3. What do you think you could do to improve your writing skills?
4. If you are clearer about your message and the reader, what does it resulting in?
5. If you answer the questions in the article, what will be the result of your writing?
6. In your opinion, do you think this article will help someone to write better?
7. Have you ever had times where you didn’t know where to begin with something you had to write? What did you do?

#135 Understanding Medical Jargon

1. Have you ever had times where you visited a doctor and you didn’t know what he was saying?
2. Why do you think doctors will sometimes speak above patients head when explaining something to them?
3. Do you think doctors will sometime rush people too much?
4. What is a symptom? Give an example.
5. What is a sign? Give an example.
6. If you thought your doctor wasn’t spending enough time with you, would you switch to a new one? Why or why not?
7. Have you ever had to switch to another doctor because you didn’t feel you were helped enough?

#136 Smile! Relieve Stress, Achieve Happiness, and Relax Just by Smiling

1. Do you agree with the article that smiling can actually help you feel happy?
2. Have you ever been around someone that doesn’t smile and you suddenly felt unhappy? Did you try to make this person smile so you didn’t feel so unhappy yourself?
3. What happens when people see a smiling face?
4. What do smiles on your face tell your brain?
5. What can a smile do for you?
6. Have you ever tried to smile to make yourself feel better and you found it was difficult? What did you do instead to make yourself feel better?
7. What else do you think you could do besides smiling to improve your mood?

#137 Raising a Resilient, Bounce Back Kid

1. What can parents, teachers, and caregivers do for a child?
2. What is the role of a parent, teacher, or caregiver?
3. Do you agree with the article that the ability to bounce back from disappointment or failure requires life skills that can be taught? Why or why not?
4. What does resilience do?
5. What is the result of self-blame? Have you ever blamed your self too much for something? How did it make you feel?
6. Do you believe telling someone that you have confidence in them will help them out?
7. How do you teach someone to bounce back from disappointment?
   

#138 Next Time and Up Until Now - Mistake Or Learning Experience?

1. What does thinking of mistakes in terms of next time do?
2. Have you ever made a mistake and found that it was difficult to get over? Once you got over it, how did you feel?
3. Do you think that holding on to mistakes will greatly affect someone over time? Why or why not?
4. Do you agree with the article that there is a difference between failing one time and being a failure? Why or why not?
5. Do you agree with the article that your past mistakes provide learning experiences? Why or why not?
6. What is an example of one mistake you made that you learned from?
7. What should you do instead of labeling yourself negatively?

#140 Give the Gift of Courage and Encouragement

1. What is the result of encouraging someone?
2. Do you agree with the article that knowing that somebody wants you to succeed, and tells you so, can give you the courage and the confidence to truly do so? Why or why not?
3. Did you ever go through a time where you felt discouraged? What did you do?
4. Do you agree with the article that letting go of negative thoughts will help you to succeed? Why or why not?
5. What is the type of exercise mentioned in the article that someone should try? Do you think this would be helpful? Why or why not?
6. Have you ever had to say encouraging words to someone to make them feel better? Did it work? If not, what could you have done better?
7. Do you believe that knowing that everyone makes mistakes will help someone feel like they are not a failure? Why or why not?

#197 Use Encouragement Instead of Criticism to Help Children Improve

1. What is the effect on the children when we use harsh words, demeaning adjectives or a sarcastic tone of voice?
2. True or False.  Verbal abuse is more likely than physical abuse to damage children’s self esteem.
3. What are we trying to achieve when we encourage our children focusing on their assets and strengths?
4. Why is it important that we need to make sure the children understand that our love and acceptance is not dependent on their accomplishments?
5. In your own words, can you briefly describe what a verbal encouragement sandwich is?
6. Criticism brings about rebellion, anger and loss of self worth.  What does encouragement and kind feedback bring about?
7. Why is it important to help children recognize that mistakes are never final?  And what does courage help our children realize?

#200 Normal and Logical Consequences

1. What is the difference between being firm and being strict?
2. There is no better teaching method than letting natural consequences take place.  But what should parents do if there are no natural consequences?
3. What do we need our children to clearly understand about their actions?
4. Why do you think it is more effective to ask children what they think is a fair consequence rather than arbitrarily handing out a punishment?
5. When dealing with children who misbehave, the easier road is to yell at them or punish them, but that doesn’t teach them much or allow them to solve their own problems.  What does the author suggest we should do instead?
6. If the children “forget”, or just don’t do their chores, what does the author suggest the parents should do to remind their children?
7. Do you think the “police sergeant” solution suggested by the author will work for any children?

        #201 Is My Child Lazy?

1. What are some of the reasons why a child appears to be lazy?
2. How does food contribute to a child’s seemingly lazy behavior?
3. Your child may be overwhelmed by the assignment or even unchallenged.  But in general, what kind of projects the children prefer?
4. Parents frequently complain that their children are not doing the task the way they prefer.  What will the child do when they know that the parent will complain?
5. Because most children strive on structure, routine and schedules, what will happen when we set limits and realistic expectations?
6. Why are children frequently testing the boundaries and rules set by their parents?
7. Why is it important for parents to discuss with the children the rationale of limits set upon them?    
   

#202 How to Create an Attitude of Cooperation

1. What does it mean to be a mindful parent?
2. What is the ultimate goal in getting our kids to help at home?
3. Instead of taking the labor vs. management, or leader vs. follower approach, how should we model our relationship with our kids?
4. Why do you think the author suggests that our homes should be like apprentice shops?
5. According to this article, when is the best time for parents to plant the seeds of good judgment, thoughtful consideration for others and self-reliance in all areas of daily family life for their children?
6. What will happen when we change the family’s attitude into one of positive expectancy rather than anticipation of negative outcomes?
7. Why is it not recommended for parents to step in and save children from making mistakes (unless it is a matter of safety)?
8. What are outward and inward responsibilities?
9. True or False.  Aptitude and competence is just as important and vital to a happy life as attitude and confidence.
   

#203 How Often Does Child Sexual Abuse Get Reported?

1. What would happen to the child abuse victims when they grow up if they don’t report the crime or get help with the trauma?
2. What survival skills will the children victims develop in an attempt to cope with the confusing reality of what has happened to them?
3. What are some of the reasons that reports of child sexual abuse are rising each year?
4. True or False.  In the Commonwealth Fund Survey of the Health of Adolescent Girls, they found that of sexually abused children in grades five through twelve, a majority of the boys and girls had told no one about the abuse.
5. What are the most common reasons given by the victims for not reporting the sexual abuse crimes to authorities?
6. What state agency does the author suggest that all child sexual abuse cases should report to?  And what should the parents do when reporting the incident to the police?
7. What should a parent say or do to the sexual abused child?

#205 Playful Parenting – More than Just Fun and Games

1. Why is it vital to encourage your child to play?
2. Why is recreation important in building and sustaining a strong family?
3. What does the author propose with regard to work and play?
4. How did kids learn to create fun in the past generations?
5. What are we trying to achieve if we establish a time for the children to “play”?
6. What are some of the health concerns if kids spend too much time in front of a TV?
7. What is the most devastating result of inactivity and obesity in our children?
8. How will play help your child succeed in life?

#206 Loving Your Step-Children

1. What do children perceive their parent’s love is tied to?
2. How did the author response when people asked her what parents can do to have stronger families and more harmony at home?
3. Why do you think most children tune out most of their parent’s verbal communications?
4. What important message do we share with our children when we read often to them?
5. What does the author suggest we should start and end each day with to express our love of our children?
6. Why is it important that we should complement our kids at least once a day?
7. What are the benefits of having family meetings?
8. What is the meaning of unconscious parenting?

#207 Your Family is an Organization

1. According to the author, what is the basic organization of society?
2. Why should each family member have a “job description”?
3. What is the benefit of having a clear job description?
4. What is a family council?  What is the purpose of it?
5. Give three examples of opportunities provided by a family meeting.
6. What are some of the guidelines for effective family meetings?
7. What is a typical agenda for family meetings?

         #210 Discipline Without Damage

1. For those parents who have been parenting with physical abuse, the author has provided different approaches to discipline.  But what should these parents acknowledge first before these approaches can work?
2. What is the meaning of the word discipline?
3. Why is it important to have unconditional love of your children?
4. Do you agree that we need to be both firm and kind in discipline?  Why? 
5. Why should we teach the children that mistakes are never final?
6. It’s not only important that we teach our children to forgive but what should we ask for as well?
7. Why do you think we should eliminate who’s at fault” when we disciple our children?

         #211 Write “You: Slice of Life: 6 Quick and Easy Steps to Writing a Personal Essay

1. Why do you think readers like personal stories and essays?
2. Why is it important to keep personal essay brief?
3. What does the author suggest we should structure our story with when writing our personal essay?
4. What is our goal when we illustrate our point?  What are trying to achieve?
5. What should we enliven our essay with to enhance the audience’s reading experience?
6. True or False.  A personal essay does not have to be sensational.  In fact, personal essays are the best when they describe a common but freely shared experience.
7. Instead of preaching our ideas, what does the author suggest we can do to make our essays more engaging?

#212 What Can We Do to Make Kids More Likeable?

1. Do you agree that some children are likeable not because of their in-born skills but because of the skills they learned?
2. What are the benefits for children when they fit in and have friends beside they will feel good?
3. What personal trait correlates more strongly than any other attribute to being liked?
4. What does the author encourage the children to do to make them feel special?
5. What should parents do to let their children know not to take it personally when people are mad at them?
6. What body language should we project to make friends?
7. Why do we need to recognize the difference between friendship and popularity?

#214 Assume Personal Responsibility? Who, Me?

1. According to the author, we do not become responsible when we mature.  When do we mature?
2. What are the only reasons people are ever motivated according to psychologists?
3. Personal Responsibility is an ever widening circle of people, places and events affected by our decisions.  What is in the center of that circle?
4. What is the next circle of influence right outside the center?
5. Where do we practice random acts of kindness, courtesy and service as we mature and become more sensitive?
6. What is our personal responsibility to the Universe?
7. What should parents and teachers teach our children about personal personality?