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Pass It On Game & Workbook
Introduction and Overview
Hello and Welcome to the Pass it On Student Mentoring Program!
The goal of this program is for every student to have an opportunity to have a mentor and to be a mentor! This program will be an after school class held Monday, Wednesday and Friday from 3:30PM to 5:30PM and will run for the entire semester.
Participation in this program will both help empower and help you realize that you can make a positive difference in others lives.
All students that are interested in participating in this PIO Student Mentoring Program will be asked to pick one subject/activity in which he/she can mentor a younger student. Could it be with math? Reading. At the same time, you may also state in which area you would like to be mentored by an older student.
If you choose to be a mentor, you will be asked to attend mentor training to prepare you as a mentor before the program begins. Next, mentors and protégés will be matched up with the mentor/protégé of their choice. Students will have the option to participate as mentors as well as protégés. You will be given a workbook that you will be able to keep notes in on your protégé as you get to know them.
After training and the mentor/protégé match-up the fun begins! The first hour, from 3:30- 4:30 pm will be a combination of snack/social time, helping with homework, playing the Mentoring Connection Game and recording in your workbooks. The second hour from 4:30 – 5:30 pm, there will be a group presentation that everyone will attend, with fun activities that you will participate in within small groups.
We will have adult mentors to monitor and oversee the after school class and to assist with questions, the activities, etc.
At the end of the program, you may have the option of re-signing up for the next semester. You may also want the opportunity to “switch rolls” - become a mentor or protégé.
Thank you and welcome to the Pass it On Student Mentoring Program
GETTING STARTED
GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER!
The following questions are to be answered by both mentor and protégé. You will begin by “interviewing” one another and recording the answers in your workbook. The workbooks will be turned in at the end of every class, and signed out back to you at the beginning of each class. The mentor and protégé will only see this information, so please share freely with one another.
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What is your name?
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Do you have a nickname?
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Where were you born?
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What grade are you in?
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What is your favorite subject?
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What is your least favorite subject?
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What is your favorite TV show?
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What are your hobbies/interests?
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What kind of music do you listen to?
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What is your favorite color?
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Do you have any brothers or sisters?
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When is your birthday?
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Do you have any pets?
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Who is your favorite celebrity and why?
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Who is your favorite sports team?
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If you could visit anywhere in the world, where would it be?
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Within each section, there are related questions on cards that the mentor/protégés will answer if they “land” on that spot. Also included within each section are “Character values” - if you land on one of those, you will be directed to a page # in your workbook that corresponds to the category you are playing. For example if you land on the character value “Honesty” in the red category, you will go to the page # on that Value in your workbook and answer the question. In addition, you will be asked to rate that value on a scale from 1 to 10 on how import that value is to you.
This workbook will be divided into the above five sections. As you play the game, you will be focusing on one section of the game each time you meet. The mentor/protégé can both decide together which section they would like to work on that particular day. You can spend anywhere from a few minutes to a whole hour on the game, or you can choose to do homework, etc, instead.
There will be adult mentors available to assist you as needed. Both mentor/protégés will be recording each other’s information in their workbooks each time you meet. The workbooks will be turned in at the end of each class and picked up at the beginning of the next class.
HOW TO PLAY THE PASS IT ON MENTORING CONNECTION GAME
1. Place the colored cards on the board over the corresponding picture.
2. The players will choose which category that day that they will play. After 5 sessions both players will have played all five.
3. Each player rolls a die. The highest number will go first. (The highest number on the dice is a three.)
4. Players roll a die and advance around the category chosen, (for example: Red is Situation) by moving the number of spaces shown on the die. Once you land on a square, take the top card of that category and answer the question. When finished answering the question, place the card on the bottom of the stack.
5. Should you land on a space that places you on a character value, you will go to the page # on that value in your workbook and follow the directions. Then your turn is over.
6. Be respectful of each player when they are taking their turn.
SELF INFORMATION
Name: ______________________________
Birth Date: _________________________________
Phone: _________________________
Age: ________
List 10 words that describe you:
_________ ________ _________ ________ ________
_________ ________ _________ ________ _______
What are your three best qualities?
What do you see yourself doing 5 years from now?
What do you see yourself doing 10 years from now?
What do you see yourself doing 20 years from now?
Of all the things you do in your free time, which do you like the most?
Of all the things you do in your free time, which do you like the least?
What are the qualities (no names, please) of adults that you respect and admire most?
Do you have some of these qualities?
What are you doing to enhance them or develop them in yourself?
What are the qualities of adults you admire and respect the least?
Do you have some of these qualities?
What can you do to avoid developing these qualities in yourself?
Do you have any favorite sports, hobbies, or crafts? If so, what are they?
What are your favorite TV programs?
What magazines do you enjoy reading regularly, if any?
What about you make you likable to your friends?
What major goals or objectives do you have right now?
What are you doing to accomplish them?
What does friendship and being a friend mean to you?
What do you think of school?
What changes would you like to see at your school?
Are you happy with yourself?
In what ways would you like to change, if any?
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My Answer
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Mentor/Protégé’s Initials If Same
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Month of Birth
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Favorite T.V. Show
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Favorite Hobby
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Favorite Music Group
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Favorite Pet
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# Brothers
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# Sisters
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Favorite Food
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Favorite Number
(From 1 -10)
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Favorite Color
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Favorite Holiday
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Favorite School Subject
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Favorite Sport
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Favorite Movie Star
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I feel hurt when...
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I wish I had time to...
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I love...
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What was-your-childhood -nickname and how-did you feel about it?
Do you like your first name now? If not, what would you like instead?
What is the funniest thing that ever happened to you?
What is the silliest thing you have ever done?
How would you describe yourself?
What things have you done that you're proud of?
What is the stupidest thing you have ever done?
What is your all-time favorite movie? Why does it have special meaning for you?
What was your favorite toy as a child?
Who is your best friend of the same sex?
Who is your best friend of the other sex?
What do you look for most in a friend?
What is your favorite possession?
Can you name a favorite possession you no longer possess, and describe your feelings about no longer having it?
With what member of your family do you most identify? Why?
What is your favorite book? What in it has personal meaning for you?
If you had to be someone else instead of yourself, whom would you choose? Why?
What in life is most important to you?
Name something you hate to do. What do you hate about it?
Name three reasons why you are worth getting to know.
Five reasons I trust myself are:
Positive qualities that I like in myself are: Example: Kind, happy, intelligent, honest
What I appreciate about myself is:
What two items on your list are willing to do this week?
Some of the ways I take care of myself are:
When I take care of myself, I feel:
I felt PROUD when
I felt DISAPPOINTED when
I felt RESPONSIBLE when
1 felt ANXIOUS when
1 felt SURPRISED when
I felt SYMPATHETIC when
I felt EXHAUSTED when
I felt BEFRIENDED when
I felt LONELY when
1 felt ANGRY when
I felt EMBARRASSED when
I felt DISCOURAGED when
I felt MATURE when
I felt EXCITED when
List some different ways your feelings affected your behavior:
Would you have acted differently if you had had a different feeling?
List 5 mistakes-you have made in your life:
List what you could learn from each of these mistakes:
What do you judge about yourself?
What do you believe "should" be different about yourself?
Is there anything you can do about that?
How can you let go of the judgment inside yourself?
How can you be more caring for yourself?
Will you do that?
SELF QUESTIONS
What was your proudest moment recently?
What physical exercises did you do today?
What worthwhile task or duty did you perform today?
What have you done to improve yourself recently?
What did you do today that you enjoyed the most? Why?
What did you like or admire about someone recently?
What did you do recently that you have never done before?
What new sport, hobby or activity have you recently become interested in?
What was the most unusual or interesting place that you recently visited?
What did you learn recently from a book, movie, newspaper or television
What did you like the most about yourself today
Tell about a person who made you feel good or happy today
What did you do today that someone else appreciated?
Describe your mood or attitude today
Who did something special or nice for you recently? What was it?
What was the best decision that you recently made?
COMPLETE THIS SENTENCE. THE THREE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS IN MY LIFE TODAY ARE:
SELF CHARACTER VALUE EXERCISES
COMPASSION:
1. Can you think of a time when someone went out of their way to do something nice for you when you were depressed or sad? If not, share how it may have helped you if someone did.
2. Pick out one person to do a kind act for- try and find someone who you think especially would feel better if you did. It could be a neighbor, a teacher, or stranger. Then describe how you felt.
COOPERATION:
1. Without being asked, start doing your chores daily. Write down three that you are supposed to do:
2. Go to your teacher and ask him/her what you can do in the class to help out. Try and get one other person to do it with you. Then describe below the benefits of teamwork.
FRIENDSHIP:
1. Using the word "friend" think of five positive words to make up each letter: for ex. f is for funny.
F _______ R ________ I ________ E ________ N ________ D __________
F _______ R ________ I ________ E ________ N ________ D __________
F _______ R ________ I ________ E ________ N ________ D __________
F _______ R ________ I ________ E ________ N ________ D __________
F _______ R ________ I ________ E ________ N ________ D __________
2. Write down three things that describe the type of friend you are now, or would like to be.
HONESTY:
1. Practice honesty - give one example of a time you were honest: It could be a time you had to admit to something, or when you were tempted to copy someone else's answers, but didn't, etc.
2. Now be honest with yourself: Write down something about yourself that you would like to improve. Maybe you don't always do your homework, for example.
PERSEVERANCE:
1. Practice perseverance - don't give up too easily. Think of a time when you gave up on something but wish you had stuck it out. Now, think of something that you would like to do or finish.
2. Define perseverance and what it means to you. If you are not sure what it means, read the section on perseverance first.
RESPECT:
1. To respect others, you also need to respect yourself: List at least one thing that you respect about yourself.
2. Think of someone you know personally and write down three things you respect about them and why. Then tell or write that person a note.
RESPONSIBILITY:
1. Do you think you are considered responsible? Why or why not? Think of one thing you could do to that shows responsibility. It could be cleaning your room, turning in all your homework, etc.
2. Ask a parent or family member if they need help with something then follow through with it without being asked. Keep track of it here:
SELF-DISCIPLINE:
1. Pick one thing that you want to improve about yourself. Then make a commitment to yourself that you will not give up. List below any challenges and how you plan to overcome them.
2. Motivate yourself to become more disciplined. Think of one thing positive that will result from this. Give yourself a reward when you reach your goal.
SHARING AND CARING:
- Do you feel you are a kind and sharing person? If you have ever gone out of your way to help someone, describe it and how it made you feel.
- Pick out one special person in your life and show them that you care. Write them a brief note telling them how you appreciate them, or do a favor for them.. It could be for a friend, neighbor, parent, etc. Then describe here briefly their reaction.
MENTORING INFORMATION
What do you think this mentor/protégé relationship could do to assist you in developing skills more fully?
What I would like to have different in my life is:
I wish I had the ability to:
It is not easy for me to:
I wish I were better at:
I wish I were more motivated to:
Things I need money for (weekly)
Things I need money for (long term):
I waste money by:
Ways I can be more careful with money are:
The character values I have about money are:
My family's attitude about money is:
The way I'd like to think about money is:
The things that stop me from saving money are:
I can change this by:
The reasons money is so important to me are:
Ways I can earn money:
I'm saving money for:
Imagine yourself the parent of your own children:
What three sentences of advice would you give to them if they were your age?
What three things would you not say to them?
What two things would you allow them to do that you are not allowed to do?
What two things would you not allow them to do?
List three ways in which your children's lives might be different from yours.
COMPLETE THE SENTENCE: THE THREE THINGS IN MY LIFE THAT I AM THE MOST GRATEFUL FOR IS:
WHAT DID YOU RECENTLY DO WITH YOUR MENTOR/PROTEGEE THAT WAS CREATIVE?
COMPLETE THE SENTENCE:
I really admired _________________________today because:
(Name)
DESCRIBE YOUR LAST GOOD DREAM:
IF YOU WERE SITTING WITH A POPULAR TV STAR RIGHT NOW, WHO WOULD IT BE AND WHY?
COMPLETE THE SENTENCE: I RECENTLY PRETENDED THAT I WAS
DISCUSS WHERE AND WHEN YOU FELT THE MOST RELAXED AND PEACEFUL TODAY?
IF YOU AND YOUR MENTOR/PROTÉGÉ WERE GIVEN $500 THAT YOU HAD TO SPEND TODAY, WHAT WOULD YOU SPEND IT ON?
MENTORING QUESTIONS
COMPLETE THE SENTENCE: SOMETHING THAT I WILL NEVER DO TODAY IS
THE LAST TIME MY MENTOR/PROTÉGÉ MADE ME LAUGH WAS:
WOULD YOU SAY YOU HAD A POSITIVE OR A NEGATVE ATTITUDE TODAY? WHY?
TALK ABOUT THE LAST TIME WHEN SOMEONE REALLY LISTEND TO WHAT YOU SAID:
WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME SOMEONE THANKED YOU? ARE YOU MORE COMFORTABLE GIVING OR RECEIVING COMPLIMENTS?
COMPLETE THE SENTENCE: SOMETHING INTERESTING I HAVE LEARNED TODAY IS:
WHAT OBSTACLE DID YOU OVERCOME TODAY?
I HAD FUN WITH MY MENTOR/PROTÉGÉ WHEN WE:
HOW DID YOU COPE WITH VALUE LONELY RECENTLY?
MENTORING CHARACTER VALUE EXERCISES
COMPASSION:
1. Each of you think of one person to do something nice for that has been having a tough time recently. Write down at least one thing that you can do to help.
2. Tell each other a time you may have been feeling bad. Write down what someone could have done that would have made you feel better.
COOPERATION:
1. Become a team of two: Pick a project such as volunteering to help after class or to pick up trash at your school. Ask others to join you.
2. Your mentor/protégé needs to focus on their homework or study for a test. What can you do to cooperate?
FRIENDSHIP:
1. Each of you Write down what being a friend means to you. Then share with each other.
2. Together pick someone that you think needs a friend. Maybe it is the new kid at school, or someone that has been down or sad. Write down at least one thing the two of you could do as a friend for that person.
HONESTY:
1. Make a promise to each other that you will be as honest and truthful with one another as possible. Promise to be loyal to one another. Put your promises in writing:
2. Describe a time you weren't honest and what you would do differently if you could.
PERSEVERANCE:
1. Each of you selects a goal that you would like to accomplish. Then support one another towards that goal. It could be a simple short-term goal such as getting up earlier for school, or longer-term one such as raising a grade. Write down at least one short-term and one long-term goal.
2. Tell each other about a time perseverance paid off for you. Or tell about a goal that you gave up on and how perseverance might have helped you.
RESPECT:
1. Together, write a short poem or story about respect. Share it with others in your group.
2. Tell each other what you respect about them. Try and think of three things:
RESPONSIBILITY:
1. Think of something that you can do to show more responsibility. Now share with one another something positive that has or will happen because of your actions.
2. Can you be more responsible at school? Ask what the two of you could do together to help and then share the responsibility. Write down at least one idea.
SELF-DISCIPLINE:
1. Share with each other one goal that you would like to accomplish. Support each other in achieving that goal.
2. Together design a plan of self-improvement such as eating healthier or exercising more etc. Write down your plans and then follow it together.
SHARING AND CARING:
1. Share something about yourself with your mentor/protégé. It could be a tough time you went through or something unique or interesting that you did.
2. Each of you draw a cartoon on a separate piece of paper about sharing and what it means. Exchange your drawings with each other. Don’t forget to sign and date them
SITUATION INFORMATION
What type of car would you like to own? Why?
If you could invent something, what would it be, what would it do?
Why would you want to invent it?
If you could be a famous person, who would you like to be? Why?
In which period of time, past or future, would you like to live? Why?
What skill or ability would you most like to possess? Why?
Where in the United States would you like to visit? Why?
What foreign country would you most like to visit? Why?
Where in the world would you most like to live? Why?
In which activity (sport, dance, etc.) would you like to be a star? Why?
If you had a million dollars, what would you do with it
What one change would you make if you were to become Leader of the World?
What was your biggest triumph in this past year?
What do you imagine your biggest triumph of next, year will be?
List three very special times you had during the past year.
List three disappointments you had during the past year.
What are you going to do in the New Year to avoid repeating those disappointments?
What was something that turned out better than expected in the past year?
Other than yourself, who was the most important person in your life in the past year?
Who do you think will be the most important person in your life next year? Why?
What is the one thing you are most committed to doing in the new-year?
If you accomplish this, how will it change your life? What would you like to be able to say about it one year from today?
What was the biggest decision you made in the past year, and how did it turn out?
What decision did you make in the past year that you wish you hadn't?
What decision didn't you make in the past year that you wish you had made?
What are you willing to do to make better decisions in the new-year?
What is the biggest decision you think you will have to make in the New Year?
Are you more or less optimistic about your chances for greater success than you were at the beginning of the past year?
What do you feel makes you a better, more deserving person today than you were a year ago?
What is the favorite object you bought in the past year?
What is the most rewarding compliment you received in the past year?
What is one compliment you wanted to give to another in the past year and didn't?
Who is someone you just met in the past year and would like to get to know better in the New Year?
What is the biggest risk you took in the past year?
What do you think your biggest risk may be in the new-year?
What in the past year totally surprised you?
If you could have three wishes granted for the new-year, what would they be?
What one-word sums up the entire past year for you?
What is the most useful thing you learned in the past year?
What specific thing would you like most to learn in the new-year?
List three things you did in the past year you had never done before:
What was the best piece of advice someone gave you in the past year?
Name your three favorite movies in the past year:
If someone hadn't seen you in the past year, what is the biggest change in you they wou1d notice?
What do you expect will be the biggest change you will undergo in the new-year?
If you had the power, what would you most like to change about your life in the New Year?
What were you proudest of accomplishing in the past year?
On a scale of 1 to 10, how excited are you about your prospects for the new-year?
Name three people you would like to call to wish a Happy New Year.
Name something enjoyable you are willing and able to buy for yourself or do for yourself in the first few weeks of the new-year.
Up to this moment, what do you feel you've gotten out of answering these questions?
SITUATION QUESTIONS
DISCUSS A RECENT SITUATION IN WHICH YOU EXPRESSED YOUR FEELINGS:
DISCUSS A SITUATION THAT HAPPENED RECENTLY WHERE YOU WERE ASKED FOR HELP?
DISCUSS A RECENT SITUATION WHERE YOU THOUGHT ABOUT ANOTHER PERSON’S FEELINGS:
DISCUSS A SITUATION WHERE YOU WERE FRIENDLY WITH SOMEONE RECENTLY.
TELL ABOUT A FUN EXPERIENCE THE LAST TIME YOU PLAYED A SPORT:
TALK ABOUT A RECENT EXPEREINCE WHICH MADE YOU FEEL IMPORTANT:
TELL ABOUT A “GOOD DREAM” YOU RECENTLY HAD:
TELL ABOUT A SITUATION THAT MADE YOU FEEL GOOD TODAY:
TELL ABOUT A RECENT TV SHOW, MOVIE OR BOOK:
TELL ABOUT A RECENT SITUATION WHERE YOU LEARNED SOMETHING:
TALK ABOUT A RECENT TIME THAT YOU LISTENED CLOSELY:
TALK ABOUT THE LAST TIME YOU FELT CREATIVE:
TELL ABOUT A TIME TODAY WHEN YOU WERE HAPPY:
TALK ABOUT A SITUATION WHERE YOU HELPED SOMEONE RECENTLY:
TELL ABOUT A SITUATION WHERE YOU FELF LOVED RECENTLY:
TELL ABOUT A RECENT SITUATION INVOLVING ART OR MUSIC.
TELL ABOUT A TIME WHERE YOU FELT SMART OR INTELLIGENT RECENTLY.
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